Stout gives an example of dissociation that all can relate to when she describes a return home following a long day at work and the sudden realization by the driver that he or she can't remember anything from the route home. And in the manner of the true hero, she must choose to take the risk. Why is it sweet caring people can seem to molt into rage filled tormentors? In 2005, her book The Sociopath Next Door won the Books for a Better Life Award, Best Book in Psychology. The premise is that we all dissociate to a greater or lesser degree. Their lives show, with pristine clarity, that it is only after this hard-won choice that actual conscious living becomes possible. Stout, with as much as intellect and clarity as her explanation of sociopathology in the Sociopath Next Door, talks about Dissociative Identity Disorder Mutliple Personality Disorder and the symptoms, experiences, and approaches to healing.
My only reason for not bumping this up another star is that her work is so well done I knew of many of the concepts she discussed, as they have become quite well Despite the rating, I highly recommend this book that humanize dissociative disorder through acquainting us with some of the author's extreme cases, of people who even had to invent personalities to preserve themselves in the face of horrific trauma. A major point Stout makes is we all experience dissociation in varying degrees. The befuddled, normally sane masses can learn a lot from the victims of grave psychological abuse. . How about the contemptuous and overly simplistic view that claims humans to be sheep and calls it a day? And then later, after recovery, everyday misery is simply unacceptable. Step by step she walks you through the nuts and bolts of the intangible processes the brain uses to keep terror at bay and allow the human being to function despite adverse circumstances. In The Sociopath Next Door, she advises developing an awareness of the nature of in order to avoid becoming its victim and proposes 13 rules as guidelines to assessing relationships and behavior for these characteristics, as well as offering advice on handling situations when one encounters anti-social conscienceless behavior.
Or if the weather is not suitable for the garden, she will simpily go to her bedroom and lock the door. They could be as benign as getting lost for the first time or witnessing parent fights at a young age. It just has to be done very carefully, by an ethical practitioner who knows what they are doing. The source of all these dissociative states, Start argues, is childhood trauma. You sigh in frustration, and regard your frozen breath in the light of the flashlight. Should you get some pennies out of your pocket, and use them to replace the burned-out fuses? We're all adults here, and we understand the explosions of a deeply unbalanced woman being used as an example a child abuser do not reflect the views of the empathetic, world-renown therapist or her publisher. Stout is in private practice as a in Boston, where she specializes in recovery from psychological trauma, , and suicide.
Very minimal damage to the cover including scuff marks, but no holes or tears. I would have given her a fifth star except for the fact that Dr Stout tends to indulge in hyperbole of her metaphors that doesn't always serve her narrative. And she does not explore thoroughly enough the theoretical foundations of her conviction that remembering initiates healing though she observes wisely that merely remembering is insufficient. Around the house, the wind moans, night and day. You know that death by burning is hideous. I didn't like the writer's style, which I found rather twee and cloying, but she gets full marks for clarity and for giving a first rate explanation of this syndrome. As children, when suffering trauma, they will have put themselves into different personality states in order to cope with the stress of the situation.
Luckily, most of us don't have dissociative states that are that severe but, as the author points out time and again, we all exhibit some dissociatve behaviors from time to time and for good reason - as a survival mechanism. Martha Stout provides deeply-moving insights into the vulnerabilities of people affected by trauma. Through astonishing stories of people whose lives have been shattered by trauma and then remade, The Myth of Sanity shows us how to recognize these altered mental states in friends and family, even in ourselves. If you think that a book on disassociation and the psychology of trauma survivors has nothing to do with you, think again. The most familiar and benign examples of detachment from self include daydreaming and losing oneself in a good book or movie. How can a ninety-pound woman carry a massive air conditioner to the second floor of her home, install it in a window unassisted, and then not remember how it got there? This work blew me away in the sense that as I devoured the information within, I became very aware that I was getting an extremely important piece of the puzzle when it comes to layer 2: Psychological reality. Her case studies of dissociative identity disorder are of course fascinating, but the biggest thing I will take away from The Myth of Sanity is the insight I have gained into normal, everyday life.
It all seemed very distant and removed from anything familiar to me. But if I could see them, then I could have them in my brain like regular memories-horrible memories, yes, but regular memories, not sinister little ghosts in my head that pop out of some part of me I don't even know, and take the rest of me away. Step by step she walks you through the nuts and bolts of the intangible processes the brain uses to keep terror at bay and allow the human being to function despite adverse circumstances. Despite the seemingly clinical context, many of her insights into childhood and personality are applicable to everybody on some level or another. In its groundbreaking analysis of childhood trauma and dissociation and their far-reaching implications in adult life, it reveals that moderate dissociation is a normal mental reaction to pain and that even the most extreme dissociative reaction-multiple personality-is more common than we think. In other words, the brain contains a broken image warning device in the limbic system.
This book presents examples of how each of us dissociate in our daily lives, and contains examples from her case studies of trauma victims. This layer seems to be the endless interplay of archetypal relationships very much as was developed by Carl Jung , and exists outside the realm of matter and physicality. Through narrative interspersed with clinic analysis, she delves into the complexity, volatility, and strength of the human mind, while also suggesting ways in which people can recover from the vast defenses that our minds can construct against trauma. She lives in Boston and Cape Ann, Massachusetts. I bought this on the recommendation of a physician. These are difficult prescriptions, and as I say, the presence of another person, a therapist or a mentor, is helpful, may even be required. When the truth is too much to bear, the brain is able to offer sanctuary of some sort through a temporary disconnection from reality.
It is by no means certain that our individual personality is the single inhabitant of these our corporeal frames. In other words, the brain appears to lay down traumatic memories differently than regular ones. Through astonishing stories of people whose lives have been shattered by trauma and then remade, The Myth of Sanity shows us how to recognize these altered mental states in friends and family, even in ourselves. In short, we all dissociate from reality for various reasons and on a sliding scale. We all do things both awake and asleep which surprise us. I blinked into the psychological hypochondria.
In severe trauma cases, including abuse and neglect, an individual may unwittingly enter an alternative reality in order to survive. Very interesting book that gave me an insight on disassociation. Why does a gifted psychiatrist suddenly begin to torment his own beloved wife? Survivors embody extremes of human experience, such that everyday misery is a near-stranger to them. Sometimes dissociation can occur when we are simply confused or frustrated or nervous, whether we recognize our absences or not. Like a magnetic field, in order for there to exist positive polarity there must exist negative polarity. This choice can only be made with awareness of how reality actually works. Or, in an attempt to feel more human, do you make things warm and comfortable? A startling new study in human consciousness, The Myth of Sanity is a landmark book about forgotten trauma, dissociated mental states, and multiple personality in everyday life.